Practical hints for men - handling a strong woman

Introduction

If your lady wants to be taken in hand and she has a strong dominant personality she might actually be tired of being dominant.

Perhaps she is a leader or manager in her job. Perhaps she has heavy responsibilities. This is the twenty first century and there are a lot of strong women out there.

And strong women can often have the same kinds of needs as strong men. We have all heard of the CEO who runs a 5,000-person company but is submissive when he gets behind closed doors. Why? Because he needs to let go.

Well, women have the same needs but they are often expressed differently and they need to be handled differently.

A strong man who wants to submit, usually needs someone extremely strong and dominant. However, a strong woman usually needs a man who is just a little bit stronger than she is.

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Feel insignificant

Her dominating man needs to be strong enough to tame her but not so strong that she feels insignificant.

Think of the lioness: Lionesses kill for a living. They bring down antelopes, zebras and all kinds of big creatures. And yet, they are dominated by lions.

At the end of a long day of harvesting water-buffalo, a lioness comes home to her lion and lays at his feet, basking in his protection.

The lion doesn't actually do a lot of growling or biting. He doesn't have to. His main function is to protect the lionesses and the cubs. He keeps them safe by scaring the bejeebers out of everything else in the food chain.

So, if you are trying to take a strong woman in hand, be a strong man, be stronger than her, but don't feel that you need to be overwhelmingly powerful.

Use whatever strength you need to use plus just a little bit more. That's all it takes.

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I wish for a man with the intelligent sensitivity of you

Wow. Found your site yesterday and I really felt that's been where my deepest desires do lie...at last to have a dominant "in-charge" man who would not abuse me or belittle me. You see, I came from an abusive stepfather, went through 2 marriages and a 16 year (!) affair. I was always very aware that these "men" were incapable of handling such an important role that requires such discerned responsibilty. I realized that I have been fantasizing all my life to be taken in hand! Tragically, elements of the dominance I sought so desparately coontibuted greatly to the long time I lost in the affair...He was older and a police executive, but in the end I could no longer make the silly excuses for him that I always seemed to. As long as I did not have one any other needs (other than the electric sex...) we got on well. Yet, as days past I did have a FEW needs (heaven forbid!) that he ignored and routinely kept himself focused on himself. I was devastated and ended a long time relationship that I thought would kill me. Oh, how I wish there would be a man coming into my life with the intelligent sensitivity described in your text.

I am one woman who longs to be taken in hand by one dominant man. Wow...what a thought!!!!!!

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As a strong woman, in reply to: Handling a strong woman

I found this very interesting because I would consider myself an independent, strong and assertive submissive woman. I’m unsure whether the situation is always exactly as described (well of course not everyone is the same,) so I though I’d add a different perspective.

I’ve found that though tired of being dominant in my everyday life, giving up control to anyone else outside of a relationship situation is even worse! In fact I’ve come to the conclusion that though I’m not interested in controlling others, the need to assert myself isn’t something I’d ever like to give up to the everyday world.

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The dominance of a man in relationships

However, within a relationship, I end up with strong submissive desires, and always have done, from such an early age that the pressures of everyday life wouldn’t be a suitable explanation. Not forgetting to mention that I’m not interested in escaping everyday life or giving up responsibility; If truly in love, which is the only situation I’ve found myself genuinely submissive in, it is more about giving than taking. So much so that with the right man I would be happy in a Total Power Exchange situation.

The difference though, is in the idea of a man needing someone a lot stronger than him, and a woman needing a man who is only a little stronger. I have met very few men who I could give genuine submission to, -in fact only one!- and that leads me to think I have the need to find someone a lot stronger than myself.

The dominance of a man in a relationship for me will never make me feel insignificant because submission is part of my way of expressing love, and as long as I feel loved and valued, that would never lead to a feeling of insignificance.

Not forgetting that feelings of insignifigance come from within, and I doubt I have the lack of self confidence to feel insignificant; a good healthy thing on one hand, and perhaops a little too much confidence on the other!

I like the metaphor you’ve used with the lion, it’s a perfect one for the idea… though just to note that some of us like a little growling and biting!

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Speaking as a strong woman...

Carlf speaks for me when he says:

If your lady wants to be taken in hand and she has a strong dominant personality she might actually be tired of being dominant.

...

And strong women can often have the same kinds of needs as strong men. We have all heard of the CEO who runs a 5,000-person company but is submissive when he gets behind closed doors. Why? Because he needs to let go.

This is how I feel. With a man, I want to be able to let go. I don't want to be in control.

Her dominating man needs to be strong enough to tame her but not so strong that she feels insignificant.

A very good point. (Is it a sign of an over-inflated ego if one has trouble imagining oneself feeling insignificant? It is?! Ooops, well, there you are. Clearly I need to be taken in hand then!)

Think of the lioness: Lionesses kill for a living. They bring down antelopes, zebras and all kinds of big creatures. And yet, they are dominated by lions.

At the end of a long day of harvesting water-buffalo, a lioness comes home to her lion and lays at his feet, basking in his protection.

The lion doesn't actually do a lot of growling or biting. He doesn't have to. His main function is to protect the lionesses and the cubs. He keeps them safe by scaring the bejeebers out of everything else in the food chain.

Obviously there is a difference between animal ‘dominance’ and the dominant relationship variety, but I like the analogy.

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